my statement – “G”

This is the last of the kids’ statements, written in their desperation to be heard and believed – and in the hope it would make a difference. What I really want on top of anything is to be with my mom and best friends.  I never EVER want to see dad again.  Not dad or anybody else that…

my statement – “F”

Another statement from one of the kids, sent to my lawyer along with the others. I need for Dad to go away forever and Mom not to have to get a job.  At the present I don’t ever want to see Dad again!  He’s been cruel and I don’t believe he loves me at all. …

my statement – “H”

My son’s statement was brief and to the point. Well, I’m pretty much down to 2 requests.  I want to live with Mom, and I never want to see Dad again.  I don’t want to talk to him, I don’t want to see him, and I don’t want to be in the same house as…

my statement – “N”

This is the third of the kids’ statements, which they decided to write in the hopes their voices would be heard. I am “N”, I am 16 years old. The reality is, besides desperately wanting to be with my mom, I need to be with her.  I need to be with her, with my siblings, away…

my statement – “C”

My 9 year old wanted to give a statement that day, too.  She didn’t know who would see her words; my oldest daughter didn’t tell her.  But knowing it was possible someone might read it, and listen and believe her was inspiration enough. No one helped her write it.  Her words came from her heart. I need to…

my statement -“E”

My kids tried desperately to be heard.  One day, my oldest daughter decided they should all write statements and send them to my lawyer, hoping it could make a difference somehow. She prefaced the statements with a short paragraph to explain their intent. Mr. R – These are the statements of how we feel right now. …

how he hurt me

It’s hard to find words that adequately explain what it feels like to be manipulated and intimidated by someone on a regular basis.  It’s the pattern of behaviors and words, more than just a single incident, which make it clearer.  I’ve read that it is good to write things down as they happen, that way you can…

Dear Dr. L. – what emotional abuse feels like..

This letter was written by my daughter – 18 – to the psychologist who didn’t believe her about the giant’s cruelty. The psychologist believed the giant’s lies.  My daughter bravely stood up for herself. Dr. L., I am writing to tell you that I will not be returning to you for counseling anymore, and I…

letter to a giant

A little girl is playing outside by herself.  She falls and gets hurt, a stick cutting her knee so that it starts to bleed.  “Mommy!  Mommy!”   She screams, calling for the motherly comfort she knows she will receive.  Her father runs out first and holds her comfortingly, but at the sight of her mother the…

The Pain Within My Eyes

The Pain Within My Eyes       I’ve been shattered, deep inside Broken beyond repair Am I crazy to have feelings Of heartbreak and despair?   I don’t know why he does this Does it satisfy his soul? The words he says, the things he does Can’t he see they take a toll?   I look…

“I understand”

Little one…  I understand. I know you have pain.      I am so sorry. I know you are hurting.      I am sure your feelings have been hurt. I know you feel empty inside. You have feelings, and they are real. You are a person.     Your feelings matter. Trust me as I say, this will not last…

fear

“N’ drew this picture in the midst of an especially fearful, painful time.  For six months, during the first part of our legal separation, the kids were forced to face on a daily basis, the reality that their dad was a giant.  They said he was cruel and frightening. To help express how they were feeling, they wrote…